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How Does Belief Operate in Your Life?

If you are wondering why belief is so important in your efforts at transforming your life, let me step you through the process. Look around you. Notice that there are all sorts of stimuli in the outside world that you can see, hear, taste, smell, and touch. These are our five senses and, believe it or not, these stimuli are neutral. Every single second, the world is sending us all sorts of stimuli. We’re just bombarded with these signals every single moment. Now, what makes them positive or negative boils down to our beliefs. Our beliefs are like filters, and when we perceive a stimulus, whether it’s something that somebody said, something that we saw, or maybe something that we heard, we interpret these things and these interpretations are never emotionally neutral. We either feel empowered or feel discouraged and diminished and small. These emotional states that we find ourselves in, by seeming accident, push us to certain physical actions and decisions.

Let me be clear, the world doesn’t care about your feelings. Seriously. How you feel, your intentions, motivations and everything else going inside your head mean absolutely nothing to the world. But do you know what people sit up and pay attention to? They pay attention to the actions you take. Your decisions matter. And I hope you can see the connection between the stimuli and your beliefs and your physical actions. If you are struggling to achieve happiness, fulfillment, contentment, and other forms of success in your life, it is due to the fact that you are using the wrong beliefs as filters. You’re feeling stuck, frustrated, small, powerless, and not in control precisely because you are using the wrong filters. Let me be clear, the reason why you refuse to take full control of your life is that you are caught in a downward spiral. Again, you may not be aware of it, but its effects on your life and the quality of your decisions are all too real.

If you were to consciously change the direction of those spirals in your life, you would be able to achieve more. Here’s how it works: when you have a positive belief, the stimuli that you get from the world makes you feel like you have a choice. It makes you feel that you can take control of every single moment of your life and produce a more positive result. When you are able to achieve that positive result, maybe you made somebody smile, maybe you did a good job at work, or maybe you impressed people during a job interview, you feel better about yourself. You feel more confident. You then are more likely to take such positive actions in the future.


The more you engage in such positive actions, the better you feel about yourself, and the less likely you’re going to interpret stimuli in a negative way. In other words, you develop an upward spiral. The better you do, the better you feel, which leads to greater confidence and more positive beliefs, which leads to even more positive actions. The reason why you’re struggling right now is that you’re caught up in the precise opposite of what I just described. You are stuck in a downward spiral. In other words, you do something bad or you perform substandard work, and people give you negative feedback. You then perceive this feedback as a personal judgment. You feel like you’re worthless, you’re dumb, you’re ugly, you are not worthy of people’s respect, or any other negative interpretations. This corrodes your confidence and you are less likely to take action.


Even when you do take action, you are so doubtful about yourself and so shaky that you do a bad job. And the process repeats itself again. You keep getting the same feedback over and over that you start believing that it is true. Ultimately, your definition of reality leaves you with the short end of the stick. You come up with conclusions like you don’t have the money, you’re too stupid, you don’t have the right education, your parents did not give you the right upbringing, and on and on it goes. I’m sorry to be the one to report this to you, but you cannot eat excuses. You may have a well-crafted excuse as to why your life is powerless, small, weak, and unhappy, but unfortunately, all the excuses in the world are not going to change your situation. You’re just going to keep going down the drain, caught in that downward spiral.


And the worst part to all of this is you feel that, at some level or another, you deserve to be there because of the excuses you chose to believe about your situation. Your areas of frustration are due to the fact that you chose to be in that downward spiral. I know, this sounds crazy because who in their right mind would want to be stuck in a downward spiral? But let me tell you, there are many abusive relationships out there. There are many husbands or boyfriends that beat the living crap out of their girlfriends physically and emotionally, but their partners refuse to leave. The same applies to your life. Life may be slapping you around, pulling you by the hair, dragging you down, and you refuse to leave because that is the only reality you know. You feel that you are dirt. You feel that the
only thing you’re capable of is failure, pain, and disappointment. You start believing that you are small and incapable of the great things in life. But it’s all in your head. If you were to change that belief system and adopt new filters, you would be able to reverse the direction of that downward spiral.

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Identify Your Beliefs

I know you’re struggling. If you’re reading this, you probably feel that you are just plodding through your life. You might even think that one day is as meaningless and as insignificant as the day that preceded it. Believe me, we’ve all been through what you’re going through. In fact, you are not alone in your current situation because there are millions upon millions of people who are in the same situation as you. They feel stuck. They feel that the best things in life have slipped through their fingers and they are struggling with whatever is left. They have all sorts of self-defeating beliefs as to why they cannot achieve great things in life. They feel they’re too poor, they don’t have enough money, or they don’t have connections. In other words, they give themselves an excuse after excuse as to why they remain frustrated.

What if I told you that these are all illusions? What if I told you that they emanate from the things you choose to believe about yourself?
You have to understand that there are people who have less money than you or who have severe physical disabilities who are able to do amazing things with their life. On the surface, these people have so little to work with, but they are able to rise above. Life may have given them lemons, but they sure know how to make a great pitcher of lemonade. Now, here comes the painful question, why can’t you do what they do? It all boils down to beliefs. We all have beliefs. You may be thinking to yourself that there’s really no overriding belief governing your life. You might want to think about that for a second. You might want to take a closer look. You see, we all have beliefs. We just might not be conscious of them. They might not be top of mind. Accordingly, we just might

not be aware of their impact on our lives. But just because we’re not aware, it doesn’t mean they don’t exist nor have an impact.
Let me cut straight to the chase. Your life is the product of your beliefs. If you want to change your life, if you want to be a winner instead of a loser, if you want to be a victor instead of a victim, change your beliefs. It doesn’t get any simpler than this, but it also is very difficult because we are creatures of habit. It’s easier to stick with the devil you know than to take a leap of faith into the great unknown. But the bottom line will not go away: if you are frustrated in any aspect of your life, they are linked to your beliefs. This is a straight link. This is a direct cause and effect relationship.

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Bridging The Gap – BELIEF

Hello and welcome to our short, beginners guide on boosting your confidence by unleashing the power of belief
“To believe is to achieve…”

How many times have you heard that saying? While it may make sense intellectually to most people, living out this saying is another thing altogether. You know it, and I know it. There are many things we know should work in our lives, but in reality, they don’t. They don’t even stand a prayer. Belief powers successful action. This is the reality. While we can say to ourselves that believing to achieve is possible for others, but not possible for us, we still have to confront this reality. If you look at any successful person, from multimillionaires to billionaires, to captains of industry, to political powerhouses, it
should be easy to see how their beliefs propel their actions. Let me say it again, belief powers successful action.

The most successful people in the world have amazing powers of belief. When you believe, you have a tremendous power core located deep within you. It doesn’t matter what’s going on outside of you. It doesn’t matter how many people point at you and laugh at you and call you crazy. It doesn’t matter how many people have it in for you to block your every step. It doesn’t matter what your feelings are. Regardless of how much access you have to resources, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is that you have this store of power locked within you that you can access at any time.

This is the secret most successful people have. They are able to tap into the amazing powers of belief. They believe in themselves, their cause, their projects so much that their belief translates to action. Even better, when they meet obstacles and setbacks like everyone else, it doesn’t faze them… because they believe in what they’re doing and what they are trying to accomplish.

Their power of belief is so strong that it produces infectious confidence that people around them simply can’t ignore or fight off. Have you ever noticed that successful people tend to reach the highest levels of power and financial wealth because they are able to inspire people around them? That’s how unstoppable their confidence is. It is not just for them. They don’t just lock it away or keep it to themselves. Instead, it spreads far from their initial circle of influence.

Indeed, successful leaders like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates and others, are able to do massive things in life because they inspire others around them to share their belief… and be empowered by the confidence this belief produces. The good news? If they can do it, you can too.
This book steps you through the following process:
• Identify your beliefs
• Highlight positive and empowering beliefs
• Reform and eliminate limiting beliefs
• Live out your belief
• Create positive confidence feedback loops
• Infect others with your sense of possibility and positivity
Are you ready to begin?…
Let’s dive in!

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5 Tips for Improving Your Self-Confidence

If your self-confidence is low, you will find it exceedingly difficult to accomplish your goals and achieve success. Everybody, at some point in their life, has suffered from low self-confidence. The key to building your self-esteem in today’s world is to be persistent and find the ways to build confidence that work for you so that you can do everything you’ve set out to do in your life. Here are six easy tips for improving your self-confidence.

Tip #1 Ð Know Your Strengths, as well as Your Weaknesses

When building your self-confidence, it is critical that you know what you are good at. A great way to determine your strengths and weaknesses is to take a skills assessment test. When your skill sets are realized, then you can begin to focus on doing those things that your good at, because nobody can be good at everything,

Tip #2 Ð Accept Yourself as You Are

You are unique. It is essential that when you are trying to build your self-confidence, that you don’t beat yourself up over the things that you don’t have control over. Rather than complaining about the things that you aren’t good at, try to find ways to improve on your weaknesses. Learn to accept yourself as you are, not who you wish you could be.

Tip #3 Ð Remember Your Successes

A lot of people will focus on those things that they struggle with while downplaying their successes. This is a mistake when it comes to self-confidence. You always have to remind yourself of your past accomplishments, no matter how small they are. Don’t downplay the positive things in your life, and stop focusing on the negative.


Tip #4 Ð Think About Your Future

Take the time to think about what it is you really want out of your life. Work at not living your life for others and decide what it is you want to achieve. Once you have determined what it is you want to accomplish, write it down and use it as motivation to reach your goals.


Tip #5 Ð Talk to Others


To get a better perspective on your life, talk to other successful people. Listening to the challenges they’ve faced and heard about their accomplishments can go a long way in raising your self-confidence. Talking to others is also a great way to figure out how to overcome your own obstacles. Never give up on achieving your goals. Use these five tips for improving your self-confidence so that you can reach your goals and achieve success.

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4 Warnings That It’s Time to Change Your Mindset

When negative beliefs and assumptions start to consume you, then you will undoubtedly be unhappy in your life. However, if you have a positive mindset, then youÕll live a happier life. Ultimately, our perception is our reality, so actively changing the way you look at life can make all the difference. A negative mindset will cloud your judgment, making it difficult to tell when negative thoughts are outside ourselves or a part of our inner psyche. If you find that negative thoughts and emotions constantly surround you, it may be time to change your mindset. Here are four signs that it’s time.

Sign #1 Ð You Constantly Focus on What’s Wrong


Do you tend to fixate on your worries and disappointments rather than focusing on the things that are going right in your life? This is a sure sign that your current mindset is contaminated by negativity. While there may be a lot of bad things happening at the moment, chances are that there are at least some aspects of your life that are going well. To shift your thinking from one of negativity to that of positivity, take some time to be thankful for the good things in your life, no matter how small.

Sign #2 Ð You Forget to Celebrate Your Victories

When you don’t take the time to celebrate the moment when something goes your way, it’s because you don’t believe it’s your victory. You think that it is concealing the seeds of failure. When you do this, you are sending yourself a negative message that you will always fail and that you can’t celebrate your victories because they are nothing more than future failures in disguise.

Sign #3 Ð You DonÕt Want to Face the Truth

Continually complaining about reality isn’t going to change a thing. When you complain about everything, it is nothing more than a refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth that there are just things that you cannot change. Not everything in your life is something that you can control. Refusing to see the world for what it is, is a huge mistake because it means that you can no longer tell fact from fiction.

Sign #4 Ð You Get Angry When Your Expectations ArenÕt Met

If you always find that your expectations aren’t being met, it means that your expectations were unrealistic, to begin with. Our expectations are a large part of our mindset and are what we believe to be possible or necessary. Changing your mindset isnÕt easy, but it is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself on your journey to success. Learning how to recognize a negative mindset is the first step to changing it.

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4 Practical Ways You Can Crush Negativity to Achieve Success

Most of us are exceptionally hard on ourselves when we consider our flaws and shortcomings. We can find ourselves easily stuck in some struggle that we know can be solved, but we just donÕt know how to begin. We are is so afraid of failure and of getting it wrong that we let negativity crush our dreams. If you tend to let negativity rule your life, you’ll never realize your dreams. Here are four practical ways that you can break the negativity in your life and achieve success in anything that you set out to do.

Speak Kindly to Yourself

If you don’t maintain kind thoughts and loving feelings toward yourself, you’ll become run down and won’t be able to achieve success. The words you speak to yourself have the power to either build you up or tear you down. Stop allowing your critical inner voice to control your life. Allow yourself to ignore this voice when it is filling your mind with negative thoughts and self-doubt.

Reinvent Your World

Your world is shaped by the way you see yourself, as well as by the beliefs that you hold. By changing your inner attitude, you have toward yourself you can improve the outer experiences in your life. Start by believing that anything is possible. Remind yourself daily that nothing is impossible. Once you chose to see yourself in a new light, you’ll stop worrying about what you can’t do and begin to dream about what you can.

Forget Mastery and Think Commitment

Trying to be the master of all you do will only create undue stress, and decrease your motivation. It can also make you less likely to reach your goals. Letting go of the mirage of perfection will allow you to break free from the weight. When you choose goals to help you get better and accept that the only thing required is the right thinking, incredible changes are possible. Pay close attention to the flow of thoughts that you have, and you’ll find that you are better able to focus your mind on being successful.

Change Your Thoughts

Changing your thoughts and the feeling that you have will change your future. Choose more positive thoughts and replace your old negative beliefs as you become more conscious of them. Your inner awareness is a powerful force and is what determines your failure or success. Stop waiting for things to happen. Remember your awareness helps to create your reality.
If you want to accomplish your goals and achieve success you have to let go of the negativity that surrounds you. Follow these four simple steps and never stop believing in yourself.

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4 Effective Ways to Become More Persistent

One of the most admirable characteristics a person can possess is persistence. Without persistence, no great achievement is possible. Everyone can set goals and make plans for success; however, only a few succeed in achieving their goals. Developing persistence is a way to ensure that you will reach your goals and achieve success. Here are four practical ways that you can become more persistent and accomplish your goals.

Identify What You Want

Before you can begin to develop your persistence, you have to know what it is you want in your life. Take some time to think about what you want and write down your answers on a sheet of paper. Really think about how you would like your life to be and what you need to do to get there. Write everything down, no matter how big or small the goal.

Figure Out Your Motivation

To build persistence for accomplishing your goals, you have to have motivation. If you know the deep-down, the reason for doing what youÕre doing you will have more energy to keep moving forward toward your goals. Figuring out what is motivating you is a fundamental aspect of becoming more persistent.

Outline Your Plan

When youÕve identified what you want and have figured out your motivation for achieving your goals, you need to develop a plan for how to achieve the success that you desire. Creating an outline of your plan, that includes specific action steps, will help you know how you will be able to achieve your goals. When you know the steps it will take to get what you want, reaching your goals will become easier. Be specific and detailed in each step and identify at least two ways that you can ultimately achieve your goals.

Shift Your Mindset

The road to success is never easy. In fact, you will face numerous roadblocks and challenges along the way. Everyone, from time to time, can get stuck in a negative mindset, succumbing to the negative thoughts and fear of failure. To develop persistence, however, you have to work to maintain a positive mental attitude, regardless of the situation. Strive to keep your thoughts focused on continually taking action toward your goals and try to avoid the negative thoughts and emotions that can destroy your focus and persistence. Accomplishing your goals and achieving success isnÕt an easy path to follow. You will run into countless obstacles and face numerous challenges, but with the right plan in place and enough persistence, youÕll realize your dreams in no time.

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The Right Choices In Life

We make decisions throughout the day. Most don’t require much thinking; you just know exactly what you’re going to do. But in many cases, you need to stop and take some time to mull over your decision where you weigh the pros and cons of all the options available to you. When the stakes are higher, and you stand to lose something valuable, making the right choice is of utmost importance. Losing is never fun, especially when it means sacrificing something important to you. For example, if you make the wrong decision, your job, your relationships, your happiness, or even your life could be at stake.
In some decisions, you know what the outcome is going to be right away, it’s clear-cut. For example, you’re trying to decide if you’re going to go to work today. If you choose to go, you’re going to get paid. If not, then you’re not going to get paid. However, for some decisions, the outcome won’t be known until a certain period has passed. For example, you’ve invested in your friend’s business. You know your friend has some business savvy, but you won’t find out until months or even years later if your investment was a wise decision.

So, how do you know you’re making the right choice in life? Here are 3 signs you’re making the correct call:

Your instincts say it’s the right choice

You’ve probably made decisions before where deep inside you absolutely know you’re doing the right thing (even though your mind says you’re making a mistake). And it turned out that you were right! In most cases, you probably didn’t even know why you made that choice, you just know that deep in your heart it was the right call. Some superstitious people may say it was your guardian angel or some higher, invisible power telling you what to do. But for those who believe in science, they say it’s a combination of past experiences and knowledge. Our brains somehow connect the dots and interpret the data to tell us what to do. There are countless stories of people who’ve listened to their intuition and lived to tell about it. They’ve somehow managed to avoid accidents, disasters, bankruptcies, and other equally life-changing (or life-ending) events. So, if you’re faced with a difficult decision right now, try listening to what your gut says.

You’re proud of your decision


If your decision is something you can live with, then it’s a good sign you’ve made the right choice. But if you’re going to be ashamed of it, then obviously it’s the wrong one. Here’s an example: you find yourself attracted to someone, but you know they’re already married, and this person also confessed they feel the same way about you. Should you pursue a relationship or not? If you can live with the idea of ruining someone’s marriage, then that’s your choice. But if your morals and your values tell you that doing so is wrong, then you need to do the right thing. In the end, you’ll be proud of yourself. You can sleep soundly at night knowing you didn’t cheat and destroy your marriage.

You’ve weighed the pros and cons

Big decisions need analysis. In some cases, listening to your gut instinct probably isn’t going to do you any favors. For example, moving to another country isn’t a small thing. Leaving everything familiar behind can’t be easy. But you know that there’s a better opportunity waiting for you abroad.
Your gut instinct will probably tell you to stay, but your logic may tell you to go for it. Whatever the case may be, write down the pros and cons of each option. Then sit on it for a few days and come back to it when you’ve thought things through. In the end, what’s important is that you go after what’s going to make you happy. You may ask other people for their input, but remember, it’s your life, and your actions will impact you more than anybody else.

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Build Positive Relationships

Material possessions can indeed make you happy, but not nearly as much if you share those possessions with people you love and respect. After all, we are hardwired to thrive in human contact and relationships. From the moment you were born, you had an instant relationship with your parents, siblings, and extended family members. When you went to school, you had classmates. When you went to work, you had colleagues and co-workers. And so on. You will go through your entire life building and maintaining friendships with a lot of people. Unfortunately, not all relationships are going to be happy and positive. In fact, you’ll probably have your fair share of toxic relationships with people around you; this includes your closest family members and friends.

If you want to live a happy life, then you need to spend less and less time with these toxic individuals. If you can afford to cut them out of your life altogether, then do it. It may be hard, but if it’s for the best, that is, living your life without them is going to make you happy, then go for it. Sometimes, a clean break is all you need to push your happiness meter from empty to full. When you’re with the right kind of people (the good kind), your happiness is going to be off the charts. You’ll be happier, more inspired, and more likely to be content. Spending your time with good people is literally going to be the highlight of your day, or even your week or month if you don’t spend nearly as much time with them as you’d like.
Here are a few ways to start building positive relationships with the people around you:

Get to know other people

If you’re the shy type, then it’s time to start getting out of your shell. Take the initiative and start talking to people. Say something nice and try to build rapport, and see if you can get a conversation going. Some probably would want to be left alone. But for most people, having someone else initiate the conversation brings them out of their shell, too. Enjoy making a new friend!

Be more understanding

Whether you like it or not, one of the best ways you can build relationships with others is to be more understanding. Try being open-minded when meeting new people. After all, we all have our differences. We are unique individuals with our own attitudes, our own beliefs, our own cultures. When you’re more understanding, you can easily imagine yourself in the other person’s shoes to know where they’re coming from.

Be a good listener

Listening is so much more than just being someone’s sounding board. Listen to what the person is saying and try to understand what’s actually being said, instead of just nodding absentmindedly. Good listeners make great friends; it shows you truly care about the other person.

Be a good communicator

A lot of problems can arise when communication lines get crossed. This is why it’s essential to develop your communication skills. It’s so easy to assume everyone understands what you’re saying, when in fact, they’re taking it the wrong way. Relationships can quickly go sour because of this. You’re saying one thing, but the other person is interpreting it in an entirely different manner.
Positive relationships do so much for us. The more positive relationships you have, the happier you will generally be. Happy relationships build our self-esteem and help us go through the motions of life in a more positive state. This, in turn, has a desirable effect of making you enjoy life more.

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Learn To Love Yourself First

Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a life of happiness. This is because you can only be truly happy and at peace with the world if you love yourself. Likewise, you can’t fully love another person if you don’t even appreciate yourself to begin with. With that said, how do you know if you love yourself enough?

Here are a few tips:

You love what you see in the mirror.
You don’t need to have the most beautiful or the most handsome face in the universe to appreciate your looks. You also don’t need to have a supermodel’s body to say you look sexy. We can’t all be so fortunate to win the genetic lottery. But, the truth is, even those we think to look ‘perfect’ have insecurities as well.
We think that making ourselves look perfect is the only way to appreciate what we see in the mirror. But when we’re constantly comparing ourselves to somebody else, and we’re always spotting imperfections even when there are none, then it’s never going to stop, is it? You’ll never be satisfied with your looks and yourself. You’ll always find something to criticize.

Sure, cosmetic technology may have come a long way, and you can now transform your physical appearance to your ideal one, but at what cost? Cosmetic surgeons don’t exactly do pro bono work, so expect to spend a lot of money. Unfortunately, not everyone has that kind of cash lying around, so they’re left with no choice but to totally avoid the mirror. But do you really need to do that? The good news is you absolutely don’t have to. You just need to work on accepting yourself for who you are, which includes your looks. Whether you like it or not, it’s the face you were born with. Learn to look beyond the physical. Sooner or later, you’ll be comfortable in your own skin, and the mirror will finally become your friend.

You prioritize yourself above everyone else

Prioritizing yourself over others is not a sign of selfishness, it just means you love yourself more than others. However, if you take to an extreme, that is, if you step over others to get what you want, then it’s a different story. But, if you’re not hurting anyone, then it’s okay. The problem with most people is that they’re too afraid to hurt others’ feelings. They follow their parents’ wishes, their spouse’s demands. They easily bow down to peer pressure even though they know what they’re being asked to do goes against their values. Giving in to people you like and love is okay, but don’t make it a habit. Your so-called friends can easily exploit your trust. If you don’t learn to stand up for yourself and fight for what you believe in, they can easily manipulate you to do their bidding. Letting others walk all over you is not a sign of selflessness. It’s a sign of stupidity, for lack of a better word. You’re a breathing human being. You have your dreams, your goals, your own life to live. Don’t waste your time making others happy if you yourself aren’t happy, to begin with. If you want to devote your life to making others happy, you need to be in a position of loving yourself fully first.

You take care of your body and your health

Nothing says self-loathing louder than letting your health go to waste. The old cliché is true: your body is your temple. If you don’t take care of your body, then it means you’re not taking care of your temple.
You don’t need to sign up for a gym membership right now. Neither do you need to buy all organic food from this point forward? Taking care of your health simply means paying attention to your body and its needs. Make a habit of eating healthy food and stop feeding yourself junk food. Stop doing anything that basically degenerates your body. Things like smoking and drinking and taking drugs aren’t cool. Sure, these may give you a short-term burst of happiness, but in the long run, you’re going to suffer big time.
Learn to listen to your body. When you’re stressed and tired, take a nap. Take a day off. Go away for the weekend. Sometimes, you may also want to do nothing at all for the whole day. Binge-watching Netflix isn’t ideal if you do it every day. But if it’s just once a week or once a month, then it shouldn’t be a problem, especially if it helps you take your mind off stressful things like work.
Give yourself some room to breathe. As the saying goes, all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. You not only get to have fun, but you also give your body a much-needed break from the hustle and bustle of your daily routine.